Let’s start this article off and simply say this. In my opinion, couples should go for counseling before they get married. This will help them to identify trouble spots, which will crop up later on in their life. They can rectify this problem after wards. Going for counseling is not yet popular among the people since they take it as a weak point. Couple who have strong marriage relation will also get the benefit if they take the service of professional counselors.
There are different stages in marriage. First step is for the couple to get married. Even if the couple are in love for some time and have meeting each other occasionally, there are so many things about each other, which they really do not know. Couple who live together and if they want to get married, still they must take the help of a counselor. They might not have thought about household workload and the finance involved. The counselor will highlight these problem areas and the couple can sort out this problem before the marriage.
Once a couple decide to get married they should approach a professional counselor and find out the trouble spots and get it rectified so that they are ready for the commitments which a married life demands. Counseling not only strengthen the relationship but also help to find out the trouble spot and rectify before it becomes a big issue, which ends up in fights. The number of fights will increase gradually. To avoid the situation you must visit a counselor before marriage. When the couple talk to an experienced counselor, he will come to know where the trouble can crop up, with his experience. It does not matter whether the couple tries to put forward their best form. The counselor will filter out trouble spots immediately while you speak to him.
Second stage is the arrival of new born. There will be a lot of excitements. But at the same time there will be ups and downs as well. Normal schedule will change. More responsibilities will be there. With each child birth the schedule will also change. Counseling at this stage will help the couple to deal with the situation during ups and downs. Counseling will help to keep the channel of communication open, which is very essential in couple. For a given situation, both the couple will react differently. One should keep others interest in mind. Counseling will help them to identify the trouble spots. That way one can avoid the situation if possible.
Most important thing to remember is that counseling is not a weakness, as people believe. It does not mean that the people who go for counseling are having weak relationship. Couple with strong relationship can also take the help of a counselor. It will help you to strengthen your relationship, which will last longer.